Unfinished Story of a Little Girl.....

Once upon a time there was a little girl. Although she had a brother and a sister she was very lonely. Somehow she seemed to know that there was something missing from her life for her days were long and hard, even painful but she accepted it for she was told that it was how life was, but at night, as she snuggled into her bed she was able to cast off her fears and loneliness and enter a world of beauty.

It was a world filled with beautiful people, with knights who believed in honour above all else and of maidens who pined for love and who enjoyed the throes of ecstasy when they found it. Softly she would enter this world, careful not to disturb it, and as she watched, she herself longed to be a part of such a wonderful and happy world.

But as time passed, she grew as all children do, but unlike other children, she never lost her joy and wonder at this beautiful world that she had created. She longed with an aching heart that some day she would find a love, one that was true, strong and lasting.

With each passing year, such a love seemed further and further distant. Instead she learnt that the world was hard and had no time for dreamers. Throughout all her troubles and turmoil, her heart never hardened as some do, but it remained soft, tender and giving. So she became drawn to the treasure trove of trying to help others. Then in some inexplicable way or maybe it was through the work she was doing, she learnt two of the most valuable truths to living.

The first was that it is far better and more rewarding to give than to receive. The second was that if you go searching for love, you may well find it, but it is unlikely to be a lasting love. Instead, it is far better to let love find you, for when it does it will not be a false love, but instead it will be a good and true love. One that will grow with the passing days. So that with the passing of the years, each others love will grow stronger and they will be bound with the silken threads so tightly that they will never break.

That little girl has grown into an adult. She no longer seeks to find love for at last she is at peace with her soul, she knows without the slightest reservation that love will knock on her heart.

Today, the world which was once so large that it took months for word to travel from one place to another, has been reduced to the point that a word spoken thousands of miles away can reach its destination the instant it is spoken. Valorous knights no longer walk the land for they have long since vanished into dust. In spite of all the factual and hustle and bustle of this modern world, Love survives!!

It is reaching out from a far and distant land, all this once a little girl, but now an adult need do is to unlock the door to her heart, open it wide and allow love to enter. But after waiting so long, after enduring so much, it is very difficult to vanquish her fears and welcome it in the way she has yearned to for so long.

Then one day while walking in the streets of the city, she met a man. He was like so many other men, quite ordinary, he spoke like other men, but she also knew he was very different from any man she had ever known. So instead of just listening to his words, she listened to the meaning of his words.

Now for the first time she started to understand and she listened attentively and yearned to hear more. As time passed this girl who was now a woman came to realise that there were still knights in shining armour and that she had found hers.

All that was needed now was time. Time to unlock her heart, but it was slow, for a lock that has never been used is difficult to open. But day be day, week by week it opened a little more, and as it opened, the light that had been locked within streamed out to meet the glory of this magnificent world waiting to enter.

Slowly this knight taught her how to understand herself, to see the beauty inside, radiating out from her soul. To look for the good in people, not their bad. To truly see the beauty of the world around us, the power and mystery of nature. For in nature, there is no ugliness, for that is something only the darkness of the human mind creates.

Now at last she was content within her soul. Now at last she knew happiness within her heart. She knew now that she was truly ready to accept and give love when it found her. She knew also that she was so very rich, for true wealth is not measured in coin or gold, but in happiness and understanding.

Then as all mortal things must, her knight was gone. Pearls of sorrow streamed from her now red rimmed and saddened eyes. Both her heart and soul were heavy. But again she knew that time helps heal even the deepest wounds. She knew also that her knight lived on in her heart, he would never leave her.

At long last she was now ready to walk confidently into the glories of life. Leaving her fantasy world behind, yet carrying a large portion of it in her Heart.

She knew now that she was ready, ready to accept the love she had always yearned for. That when her true love found her, that she would be able to give totally and completely. Not just of her heart, but of her mind, her body, her very being.

Now it has all come to pass. Not only is she happy, but she is confident that no matter what, her love will last for ever.

As U Attune to My Heart....

As you attune to my heart
Uplifted are my feelings
Connecting with affections
Here upon my heartstrings

Sensually flows the rhythm
With passionate desires
As our heartbeats in tempo
The sounds of love inspires

Again your heartsongs play
As words whisper amore
Embracing in your passion
I shall love you forevermore

When my heart sings of joy
Words flow with delight
Expressing my love to you
It gave me reasons to write

Turning Off Your Filter

From My Own Experience I want to share this with you...i turned off my filter,and it helped me a lot in every relationships.......so its a request to you too to please turn off your filters and live happily......

We all learn various communication habits early on in life. Communication patterns emerge based on our upbringing, culture, and a myriad of other experiences we encounter. Due to these factors, certain responses to situations can be “programmed” without actually being analyzed to see if the reaction is fair and accurate for the present situation. I call this a listening filter. This occurs when something someone says to you goes through a kind of preconceived filter before actually getting to you. When this happens a host of different problems can materialize. First, you typically aren’t hearing what your partner is actually saying because your filter is misconstruing the context. Second, your response may not actually indicate what “you” are trying to say or feel.

There are a host of these kinds of filters that typically stem from certain fears such as, “If they do X, they must not love me” or “getting upset with me means they are unhappy and might leave me” and so on.

Let me give you a condensed example. Let’s say in a past relationship (or even one you’ve just seen or been exposed to, like a parental relationship) one partner frequently leaves the other in order to pursue self-interests. This causes a strain on the relationship because the other partner starts to feel lonely and unimportant. This leads to arguments and upsets and eventually this relationship ends.

Flash forward to a current relationship. Your partner wants to go out for a night with the guys. Your first reaction is to compare this experience with previous experiences. Before you know it, you are suddenly filled with self-doubt and feelings of being unwanted or unloved. Instead of realizing that a guy's night out for your man is typically not a big deal, you run the situation though the filters you've develped in your previous relationship and it suddenly becomes a serious issue. Your partner has no idea that his seemingly simple request has caused these emotions in you, and therefore will have no idea how to react when you become upset. In fact, he may not even know why you are truly upset with him, because you are attacking his desire to go out instead of the insecurity your filter has caused. He will only see that his request for one night with the guys has turned into a huge problem, and this will probably leave him feeling upset, hurt, confused, or even angry or trapped.

In order to stop this cycle you need to change the way you react to a situation. You can’t always change the way you feel, so you need to work on changing the way you talk about how you feel or changing your perception of the situation.

In the example above, talking about how you feel and changing your perception could work conjunctly. If your filter turned on because you were worried they’d rather spend time with their friends than you, simply explain that to them. Let them know that sometimes your insecurity filter turns on and that occasionally you need to be reassured. You can also change your perception of the situation by realizing that your partner wants to go out with the guys just because he wants to go out with the guys. It's not that he doesn't want to be with you. The two are not exclusive.

The power to alter your perception of a situation is an amazing relationship ally. The more you realize you have the ability to change any situation just by changing the way you view it, the quicker you will learn to see your partner for exactly who they are and be able to perceive what they are really saying with their words or actions.